Listening helps you handle conflict, express respect and be a better leader. Unfortunately most people don’t remember because they don’t hear it in the first place.  Listening involves being in the moment.  When you’re present and in moment, things move in slow motion. You can take everything in. If you’re present you’ll remember everything.

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Acronym ARE U PRESENT:

• Awareness: Start with basic awareness. Get your face out of your phone, and stop thinking about what you’re going to do later today.
• Reception: Be willing to receive new information. You may be present, but your mind can be closed. Let go of opinions, and be willing to drop your biases.
• Engagement: Being engaged involves back-and-forth fairness, like a Ping-Pong match. “I talk, you talk,” says Nickerson.
• Understanding: Listen with the intention of interpreting what the other person is saying. Get into a place of understanding, where you’re both speaking the same language, figuratively and literally.
• Persistence: Be willing to stay the course and not let your mind wander. If you get bored and tired, push through to maintain your attention.
• Resolution: Bring the conversation to a close with takeaways and next steps. “Leaders are doers,” says Nickerson.
• Emotions: Respect the existence of emotions and their roles. “Emotions can work for you or against you,” says Nickerson. “Recognize their roles and learn to discern them and their effect on your ability to hear others.”

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• Senses: Employ your other senses to help you remember. Look for body language clues or even potential bluffing in the other person.
• Ego: Try to take your ego out of the conversation. A humble leader can listen more easily because they don’t correlate their ego with success.
• Nerves: Look for stress or tension; it can get in the way of being able to listen.
• Tempo: Get in touch with the rhythm of the speaker. Being out of sync with their way of talking can make it hard to listen.

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